Marriage Counseling and Couples Counseling
What is Marriage Counseling or Couples Counseling?
There are exciting new developments in the area of couples and marriage counseling – we are finding through empirical research that couples can develop certain patterns that result in distress.
We find Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) very useful in identifying these patterns, it looks within and between. The EFT approach to marriage counseling helps guide a couple from “negative and rigidly structured internal and external responses, toward the flexibility and sensitive responses that are the bases of a secure bond between intimates.”
Using a dance metaphor, a partner takes certain emotional steps, their partner in turn responds to the last move. The dance at times may be smooth and flowing at other times it may be erratic or rigid, resulting in missteps and hurt. The task in couples and marriage counseling is identifying these interaction patterns, reprocessing and reorganizing them.
In marriage counseling therapy, the therapist collaborates with the couple helping them experiment with these new ways of interacting. The marriage counseling therapy focus is on attachment, safety, trust, contact and obstacles to the above. Attention to “family of origin” is important only to the degree that it is played out currently.
A main element is the unfolding of key emotions, then using them to try on new responses. The goal of couples and marrige counseling therapy is to gain a secure bond.
Bridges Counseling Center offers a free intake session for couples and marriage counseling.